Maslow, the Our Father, and the 12 Steps

I heard something on Catholic Radio that I thought was very insightful.

We pray the Our Father forwards, but live it backwards. 

In thinking about this, I realized that the Lord's Prayer is, in some ways, like psychologist Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of needs, which starts at the most basic human needs; only when they are met can we move on to try to satisfy higher needs.

For example, if a student comes to school hungry, or with worries about violence in their home or neighborhood, they can't learn.  They can't focus on learning until those more basic needs of food and safety are met.

Similarly, the Our Father starts (if you take it from the end, as the above quote suggests) with the most important and most basic of spiritual needs.

Lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil. 

We need, first, to be delivered from evil before we do anything else. What evil is and where we find it is the difficulty in this confusing and troubling world.  We must, I think, stay close to Christ, and remember that we can't support ourselves in this world alone. The first of Alcoholics Anonymous' famous 12 steps, speaks of this need.

We admitted we were powerless...that our lives have become unmanageable. 

The Psalmist reminds us that only in God can our soul find rest.  There are times when we cannot see the evil as it influences our lives and decisions.  But, with God, all things are possible. Once we have given over our lives to God, we can beg Him to keep us away from the evil that inevitably surrounds us and influences us.  We cannot do it alone.

Next, we discover that a big part of keeping away from evil is forgiveness.

And, forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. 

This, too, requires us to ask the Lord for help.  Again, the 12 steps speak to us:

Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. 

There are those who, in their spiritual lives, focus solely on what (they think) God wants of them, never thinking to ask God for the strength to carry that out.

 Daily bread.  Give us this day our daily bread.

This can be taken to mean the literal need of food, but it can also mean the Bread of Life in the Eucharist. Taken this way, it is natural that it would come after (in this way of looking at it) our asking God to forgive us our sins. The daily bread of communion, both literal and spiritual, is something we cannot live without.

The 12 steps tell us to seek, through prayer, to improve our conscious contact with God, praying only for knowledge of His will and the power to carry that out. 

After communing with God, it is natural that we seek His Kingdom as it is played out in our lives.  This can only happen after we seek Him out, ask His help, confess our sins, and receive His daily bread.

Thy Kingdom come, Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. 

We will naturally want to further the Kingdom of God, but, again, it is important to realize that, as fallible human beings, we will just as naturally mess that up, in our own lives, and in others'. We need to remain humble and continue to believe that a power greater than ourselves can restore us to sanity. 

The last stop in the Lord's Prayer, is praise.  Acknowledge that God is everyone's Father, and that He deserves our praise. After we have humbled ourselves and given our lives over to a Power greater than our sinful selves, we can more fully realize and live our lives in God's presence. 

What is it that matters in the spiritual life?

There are different aspects of spirituality. Perhaps the most obvious, especially to Catholics, is the outward. There are statues and rosaries, incense and bells, religious jewelry and heirloom Christmas decorations.

There is also a sort of secondary tangebility in modern day Catholicism that is, in a way, re-borrowed from the Amish. This includes things like wearing modest clothing, mainly or only skirts and dresses, head coverings in church, home schooling and generally sticking to very traditional gender roles.

While there is certainly freedom within Catholicism to practice the faith in a variety of ways, these things are not required, although they do provide a sense of security in an increasingly troubled world.

If you are one to try out this sort of spiritual expression, only to have found it wanting, or have practiced it for a while and dropped the practice, you can feel a bit like a fish out of water.  Why am I not as good as those pious home schooling families? What is wrong with me? Am I losing my faith?

No. I don't think so. Sometimes, God strips us of our outward consolations in order for us to realize that the outward things are not what lasts. First Corinthians tells us that nothing lasts except faith, hope and love. If we do not have these, nothing else matters.

Thoughts from Thomas Merton

Thomas Merton said "In effect, my 'happiness' does not depend on any institution or establishment."
 To me, this means that if you depend on any structures or institutions, even ones that are helpful and functional and necessary, is to ultimately depend on fallible humanity, to be disappointed and disillusioned We should never rest on our earthly laurels when trying to get close to God.

Evening Prayer

I adore You, my God, and I love You with all my heart. I thank you for having created me, for having made me a Christian, and for having preserved me this day. Pardon me for the evil I have done today. If I have done anything good, be pleased to accept it. Protect me while I take my rest and deliver me from all dangers. May Your grace be always with me. Amen.

O Father, come and visit our home and protect us from the lures of the enemy; may Your holy angels come to guard our peace and may Your blessing remain with us forever. In Christ, our Lord. Amen. God bless you all! (Evencia)

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St. Veronica, Patron of Compassion

In today's busy society, it is sometimes difficult to bring ourselves to feel true compassion.  Social media stimulates the mob mentality that seems a hold-over from our animal ancestors. It is so easy to give in to our busy grumpiness and blame the other for their misfortunes.

Even easier, is the tendency to let our anger get the better of us when we are put out, inconvenienced, or are targets of another's anger. 

It often does not occur to us to stop for a moment, and pray for compassion.  St. Veronica was moved to compassion by what must have been a traumatic and horrific scene. She somehow overcome the fear she must have felt to publicly challenge the Roman soldiers and wipe Jesus' face with her veil.

Jesus' miracle is his gift to her, and to us. 

St. Veronica, pray for us!

Our Lady of Perpetual Help, Pray for Us!

Today is the feast of Our Lady of Perpetual Help.  She has been a great help to my family and has been a true mother to us.

Our country needs her right now more than ever.
Novena Prayer

Oh Mother of Perpetual Help, grant that I may ever invoke your powerful name, the protection of the living and the salvation of the dying. Purest Mary, let your name henceforth be ever on my lips. Delay not, Blessed Lady, to rescue me whenever I call on you. In my temptations, in my needs, I will never cease to call on you, ever repeating your sacred name, Mary, Mary. What a consolation, what sweetness, what confidence fills my soul when I utter your sacred name or even only think of you! I thank the Lord for having given you so sweet, so powerful, so lovely a name. But I will not be content with merely uttering your name. Let my love for you prompt me ever to hail you Mother of Perpetual Help. Mother of Perpetual Help, pray for me and grant me the favor I confidently ask of you.
(Then say three Hail Marys).

Praying Through Facebook

Facebook can be a life saver, a godsend, a way of connecting to people you have lost touch with or long forgotten.

The downside is that Facebook can be overly dramatic, jealousy-inducing and infuriating as you are suddenly faced with points of view that you either didn't know your friends had, or that in past times would have been kept out of "polite company."

People take Facebook breaks all the time and this can be a good way to regroup and focus on what is real and meaningful in your life. On the other hand, for many people, Facebook is the main way they keep in touch with their friends and family.

An alternative to either ditching Facebook completely, or hiding and unfriending people left and right, is to pray through Facebook.  When someone posts something that is disturbing to you in some way, lift it up.  Give it to God.  You never know what affect your quiet prayers may have on someone's life.

Someone I know recently told me about a simple and ingenious way to pray for people.  If the person in need is a male, this person prays a quick Our Father for them.  If the person in need is a female, the prayer said is a Hail Mary. That way, you actually *pray* rather than just thinking about praying for them, although I think God honors even that.

He is in control.  We don't have to fret and worry.

The importance of balance

Lent--God's Voice

Lent.

I can either run away, and drown out God's voice with my own,

or I can listen,

and let Him tell me

where I have gone

                                 off the path.


I can either insist that

                                                              I am right,

or I can learn

from God's

                                                                                                                        still, small voice.

I can either distract myself

with dreams

                         of my own

                                               superiority,
or

I can stop

         in my tracks,

                                 cover my face,

         and say,

"Lord, I am not worthy,

that You

should come under my roof.

Speak but the word,

and my soul

shall

be healed.

Lent.

Jesus, the Myth Buster

I'm just now reading a 1996 article by Rene Girard, Are the Gospels Mythical by way of The Raven Foundation. I am ever so slowly trying to get through The Girard Reader, an enlightening but weighty book.

In the aforementioned article, Girard sheds light on the difference between myths (even those which seem, at first glance, to be quite similar to some of the biblical stories of Jesus) and the Gospels.

Myths and the All  Too Real Cycle of Violence

In mythology, the victim is seen as having deserved death (or whatever his fate may be).  It is clear in those stories that the hero/victim's fatal flaw is what brought about his death. As Girard points out, Oedipus really did kill his father and marry his mother.

The victimization results in a partial peace because people band together and feel temporary relief after first having engaged in mimetic rivalry against each other.  Eventually, one person is left as the victim.  The crowd mentality causes the victimization and brings temporary relief until mimetic rivalry and contagious violence breaks out again.

We see this again and again even today.  Groups of people have historically been cast as the scapegoats. This scapegoating leads to needless violence.  We saw it in World War II and we are seeing it against the same groups today.

The Gospels--Turning Rivalry, Victimization and Violence on its Head

The Gospels, however, are very different.  Any similarities between them and various messiah/hero myths (and there are many) only serve to highlight the great differences.

Unlike the hero/victims of mythology, Jesus was innocent. He did nothing to deserve the level of violence that was perpetuated against him.  Satan thought that by whipping people up into a frenzy of near-unanimous victimization against Jesus, that a temporary peace would result, and the neatly tied up victim-blaming ending, as well as the inevitably resulting violence, would continue.

Jesus, however, refused to engage in mimetic rivalry with or victimization of anyone.  He was clear in declaring the innocence of people traditionally victimized and scapegoated in His society (those who were ill or disabled).  This is in stark contrast to myths, whose deserving victims often have disabilities of one sort or another, which is one reason they become scapegoats for their societies. Jesus speaks clearly against blaming those who have disabilities for their conditions. This extends even to the prostitute and the woman caught in adultery.

He also refused to victimize even those who were responsible for His death, forgiving them publicly from the cross. By doing this, he turns the traditional myth on its head:  the victim is innocent, and the guilty are forgiven.

Jesus refused to hide what was really happening.  In the prophesy of His death, he rebukes Peter, telling him that he is a skandalon, which is Greek for stumbling block. Jesus refused to enter into any sort of worldly competition with Peter, who was giving into Satan's plan, as Jesus makes clear in His rebuke.

The Revelation of the Paraclete

Girard points out something else, that The Raven article says is a life-changing revelation.  The disciples, especially Peter, follow the crowd prior to the Resurrection in its mimetic contagion.  They flee, and Peter denies the Savior he has spent the last three years following.

After the Resurrection, as Jesus has promised, the Holy Spirit, the Paraclete, comes to them and they become the Dissenting Minority (in contrast to the unanimous victimization we see in myths).  The Holy Spirit, Jesus tells them, is the Lawyer for the Defense. That is what the word Paraclete means.

Now, the Holy Spirit is part of the Trinity.  The Holy Trinity is three Persons in one God.  It is not three gods.  One God.  This means, then, that GOD IS OUR DEFENDER.  God is not a heavenly Judge who will "send" us to Hell.  God, through the person of the Holy Spirit, is our lawyer for the defense.

Who, then, is the Accuser? Satan. Satan is the Accuser.

As Saint John Paul II was fond of saying, "Be not afraid." Do not be afraid of God who loves you so much that HE came and died because He refused to accuse humanity, who had sent Him to the cross. Jesus came and showed us how to be the dissenting minority in the world.  "Judge not, lest you shall be judged."

I really think that this message has been all but lost among Christians today.  So many are leaving the Church because they are being judged by those who should be welcoming them with open arms and full hearts.

Let's follow Jesus' example--God's own example to us--and pray fervently for the grace NOT to judge others, not to follow the mimetic contagion towards the oh-so-tempting victimization of others. It will only bring temporary peace as we feel part of the very crowd who will only turn against us in time.

We must not judge.

We must forgive.

We must love.            

Extremism and Controversy

The internet is always abuzz with some sort of new story that is dividing Facebook and com boxes across the country.

Right now it is the vaccine debate.  There is a measles outbreak in California that has been blamed, depending on who you listen to, on people who do not vaccinate their children, or on "illegal aliens". (It always seems to be the fault of  brown people, doesn't it?)

Stemming from this is a discussion that includes comments about how all vaccines are "perfectly safe" on the one hand, and, on the other hand, how the healthcare system is "just a branch of the government" and vaccines are "not meant to be protective."

The truth is that some people do have a real reaction to some of the components in vaccines.  Some of these people vaccinate anyway and some can't. There are also people whose immune systems are such that they cannot vaccinate.  There are those who belong to religious groups that have a true and long-standing objection to vaccines.

But, as for the rest of us, we should vaccinate for the good of the community. The more people who have no real reason other than fear, choose not to vaccinate, the more these diseases will return.  Do we really want our children paralyzed or dead from polio because we believe a conspiracy theory?

The problem here is that, once again, we are gravitating towards the extreme views because it makes us feel righteous and better than others, As Christians, we should guard zealously against that attitude.  This form of fundamentalism is what drives away as many people as it attracts. An attitude of humility is what is needed.

Apparently, this attitude of fear-mongering extremism is not new. The cartoon shown is from a Depression-era cartoonist.  This answers my oft-asked question as to whether things are really worse today, or whether it is just the internet that helps spread these extreme views. It seems to be the latter.

This is why critical thinking and media analysis (I took a course in high school with that title) should be taught early and often to our children. They need to be aware of what they face in this world.  They need to know how to judge whether an opinion they hear or read is most likely to be true or false. They need to know how to research and to discern what sources are reliable.

With the dawn of the internet, misinformation spreads instantaneously, and, with a society that moves as fast as ours does today, it is so much easier to just believe the first (or last) thing we've read, but it is VITAL that we not do this--for the good of our children and the good of society.

The Sign of the Cross--the Sign of LOVE

When we make the sign of the cross, we say, "In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit."  When we make the sign of the cross, are we, as Fr. Richard Rohr asks, just going through the motions, or are we thinking of the Trinity?

Christianity joins the 2 other Abramic religions in worshiping one God.  But, our God is one in three.  Our God is a family.  Our God is LOVE.

Our spirituality is not based on an individualism, although our country is.  Our spirituality is based on a Person--a Trinity of Persons who are LOVE.

When we "bless ourselves" with the sign of the cross, are we really, consciously blessing ourselves? The sign of the cross is a way to bring to mind the Love that is our Creator God and to ask God to bless us with the Love that is the Trinity.

It is a Trinitarian blessing brought from God to our own consciousness.

Don't let it become just another thing to do.

Nixon's Resignation--40 Years Ago Today

Forty years ago, August 8, 1974, President Richard Nixon resigned. I remember all of us (my parents and some neighbors) sitting in our family room watching the president speak on TV. This was back when we all made sure to watch if the president spoke in prime time because we assumed it was important. There were rumors that he would resign, but we were all still shocked that he did.

This was a big deal to us then. Today, it seems that impeachment is threatened on a fairly regular basis, and, when carried out, nothing much results from it. Nixon was the first and only president to resign from office.

When Watergate first broke, I was in one school, in the state where I was born. By the time Nixon resigned, I was in another school in another state were we had moved. I had grown up. 

Unfortunately, for those of us who don't have a conscious memory of the Kennedy assassination, this was our watershed moment. This was the moment when cynicism was planted and took root.

He had accomplished a lot as president. He warmed up relations with Russia and China and finally managed to get us out of Vietnam  (albeit rather slowly and with much loss of life.)   All the more tragic, then, was his downfall.

I remember my father had ordered a set of books (Time Life, perhaps?) about the U.S. presidents. They were delivered right after Nixon's resignation and had a loose leaf insert stating that he'd resigned. That's where its history ended.

Those of us young enough to be impressionable and old enough to realize what was going on were left with such a denouement that it soured our opinion of authority figures of all kinds for decades to come.

 The '60s were well and truly over.

Book Review: The Secret Life of Bees

The Secret Life of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

The Secret Life of Bees by Sue Monk Kid is a life-affirming book that is pro-woman without being anti-man. It addresses such issues as abuse, suicide, race and religion without being negative. In fact, it oozes with positive energy as the honey oozes out of the comb. It illustrates the importance of a loving community, especially in tumultuous times such as the American South in the 1960s.

The version of Catholicism that is woven throughout the book is grown organically from an African-American woman who was raised Catholic. While the religion, stories and rituals she practices are far from doctrinally pure, they are entirely believable in the context of the story and serve to bind together the group of women (as well as some men) and add many layers of symbolism to the novel.

This book is one I will keep.

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"The Brain Needs Simplicity and Awe"

This very timely article article from the Freelancer's Union popped up on my Facebook feed and is
a good one to share given the new focus of this blog on balance.

Our brains tune out repetitive information in order to become more efficient.  The problem is, as our days become more habitual with their long commutes and fewer vacations, time seems to speed by faster and faster. This is because our brains are no longer paying attention to the specifics in our days--no longer internalizing what we do.  This results in our days, weeks and months blending into each other in a fast blur of years-long sameness.

Time seems to pass faster because nothing is differentiating one year from the next.

The article mentions 4 things that we can do to help slow down time.  They all boil down to 2: seek out beauty and awe and simplify your life.

Cultivate Beauty and Awe

If we take time to notice the beauty that is all around us, to get away from our desks and computers and spend time with a variety of people, nature, animals, art and music, we will develop a variety of experiences that the mind can hang onto and stop spinning out of control.

Keep it Simple

Doing this may require us to simplify our lives.

More and more people today (the article said 2 in 5 Americans) are choosing to work fewer hours and actually take that vacation. Simplification requires us to cultivate the serenity to know when to say no and when to say yes.

The brains we were created with need us to feed them with a simpler lifestyle filled with beauty and awe. To do this requires us to make sure we keep in touch with the joy that comes from being specifically thankful for the beauty with which God has surrounded us.

St. Ignatius and Ignatian Spirituality

Happy feast of St. Ignatius, founder of the Society of Jesus, aka, the Jesuits, the order from which our dear Pope Francis hails.

Check out the Ignatian Examin on the sidebar. It's a great way to give your day up to God and see his hand in your everyday life.

How Many Rooms Does Your Heart Have?

This post is essentially a re-post from the comment section of Heather King's blog. I got there via Mark Shea's post on Facebook. In her comment, King re-posts an essay from Ron Rolheiser’s book, Forgotten Among the Lilies. It talks about the fact that Catholic means universal, and narrow fundamentalism is the opposite of that.


 "A Heart with One Room."

“Our age is witnessing an erosion of Catholicism. The consequence of this, besides our drab somberness, is a polarization which, both in the world and in the church, is rendering us incapable of working together against the problems which threaten us all.

Let me explain. 

We are, I submit, becoming ever less Catholic. What is implied here? What is slipping?

What does it mean to be Catholic?

The opposite of Catholic is not Protestant. All Christians, Protestants or Roman Catholics, characterize their faith as Catholic – as well as one, holy and apostolic.

The word Catholic means universal, wide. It speaks of a comprehensive embrace. Its opposite, therefore, is narrowness, pettiness, lack of openness, sectarianism, provincialism, factionalism, fundamentalism and ideology.

To my mind, the best definition of the word Catholic comes from Jesus himself, who tells us: “In my Father’s house there are many rooms” (John 14:2).

In speaking of the Father’s house, Jesus is not pointing to a mansion in the sky, but to God’s heart. God’s heart has many rooms. It can embrace everything.

It is wide, unpetty, open and antithetical to all that is factional, fundamentalistic and ideological. It is a heart that does not divide things up according to ours and theirs. Nikos Kazantzakis wrote: “The bosom of God is not a ghetto.” That is another way of saying that God has a Catholic heart.

To affirm this, however, is not to say that, since God is open to all and embraces all, nothing makes any difference; we may do as we like, all morality is relative, all beliefs are equal, and nobody may lay claim to truth.

There is a false concept of openness which affirms that to embrace all means to render all equal.

Jesus belies this.

He affirms the universal embrace of God’s heart without affirming, as a consequence, that everything is OK. His Father loves everyone, even as he discriminates between right and wrong.

Catholicism can be spoken of as slipping, in that, unlike God’s heart, more and more it seems, our hearts have just one room.

Today we are seeing a creeping narrowness and intolerance. Fundamentalism, with its many types of ideology, has infected us. This is as true in the secular world as in the church. Fundamentalism and the narrowness and consequent polarization it spawns are everywhere. But this needs to be understood.

We tend to think of fundamentalism as a conservative view which takes Scripture so literally as to be unable to relate to the world in a realistic way. But that is just one, and a very small, kind of fundamentalism. We see fundamentalism wherever we see a heart with just one room.

The characteristic of all fundamentalism is that, precisely, it seizes onto some fundamental value, for example the wisdom of the past, the divine inspiration of Scripture or the importance of justice and equality, and makes that the sole criterion for judging goodness and authenticity.

In that sense, the fundamentalist’s heart has just one room – a conservative, liberal, biblical, charismatic, feminist, anti-feminist, social justice, anti-abortion or pro-choice room. It judges you as good, acceptable, decent, sincere, Christian, loving and worth listening to only if you are in that room.

If you are not ideologically committed to that fundamental, complete with all the prescribed rhetoric and accepted indignations, then you are judged as insincere or ignorant, and in need of either conversion or of having your consciousness raised.

In the end, all fundamentalism is ideology and all ideology is fundamentalism - and both are a heart with one room, a bosom that is a ghetto.

That is the real un-Catholicism."

Excerpted from “A Heart with One Room,” an essay in Ron Rolheiser’s book, Forgotten Among the Lilies Image Books, 2007).

Book Review--Franklin and Lucy

Franklin and Lucy by Joseph E. Persico
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

"Franklin and Lucy" by Joseph E. Persico brings together all the currently available information on Franklin Roosevelt's relationship with Lucy Mercer, with whom he had an affair prior to being stricken with polio. It also highlights his relationship with all the other "special" women who surrounded him throughout his life.

I was especially heartened that this author included Anna Roosevelt, FDR's daughter, among the voices he includes. Two of FDR's sons, Elliott and James, have both written books about their famous father, but know of none written by Anna about her parents. Many books gloss over her point of view, but this one does not.

The only thing I would change would be the use of the word "cripple" near the end of the book. While I realize that "cripple" was a term used at the time, the book is not from that time period. The author should have found a more apt description for his conclusion.





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Mickeleh

Do you watch mickeleh on YouTube?  You should.  Michael Markman is an intelligent, retired media guy with a good voice whose references I actually understand.  Recent examples:  "Soilent Green" and  S.E. Hinton's "The Outsiders", which I read in Jr. High.  I remember being shocked when our teacher told us that Hinton was a woman. 

Markman has a well-thought-out point of view on the media and modernity that is borne of experience. 

Catholic Mega App

I've got an Android smart phone now and am slowly getting used to what it does and what is available for it.

I ran across a very useful Catholic app called Catholic Mega.  It is on Google Play and has Liturgy of the Hours, Stations of the Cross, the Rosary, the Divine Mercy Chaplet, an art gallery, a prayer wall and a discussion board. It also has the Catholic bible in various languages, the Catechism, Catholic news resources, Busted Halo and Pray as you go podcasts.

It's all you need in one app.

I asked myself last night why I need an electronic app when Catholics have done without one for centuries.  The answer I came up with is that we are now bombarded with all things electronic and we need to evangelize through the new media.

Check it out!