Someone on one of the forums I frequent posted about this list. The original is here.
How to be with those who grieve
1. Be there.
2. Shut up.
3. Be Yourself
4. Don't stay long.
5. Get physical.
6. Listen.
7. Grieve with them.
8. Don't be shocked.
9. Comfort.
10. Be practical.
11. Be patient.
What jumped out at me, from the original commentary, was the idea of just showing up, being yourself and letting things happen as they happen. In other words, LET GO. Admit you have no control over the situation. This is SO hard. I look down that list and realize that there is maybe, only one or two of those things that seem to come somewhat naturally to me. With the rest, I feel a bundle of ineffectiveness.
4 comments:
Thanks for this. I need some advice as a family friend lost her grandmother, mother and sister in a span of three years!
Wow. Prayers for her.
thanks for the mention and the link. i'm honored! i have another list on How To Visit the Dying in Hospitals. Thought you'd like to know.
Thanks!
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