I think the approach that follows the way we are called to by Christ, is one of complete non-judgmentalism of others, while striving for perfection in ourselves. After all, we cannot control the behavior or practices of others; we can only control
There is so much in Catholic tradition that is no longer practiced, or no longer required, that we as individuals can choose to do for our own growth in holiness. But we must be careful not to judge where others are in their journey to holiness. Not judging, thinking the best of others, and praying for others is yet another way
that each of us has to come closer to God.
When we find ourselves mourning the loss of reverence, or of charity, or of any virtue, we can take that as a sign to focus on that virtue in ourselves with increased effort and to pray with greater fervor for others.
Why are we so ready to judge our neighbor? Why are we so concerned about the burden of others? We have plenty to be concerned about, each one has his own debt, and his own sins. It is for God alone to judge, to justify or to condemn.
~Saint Dorothea of Gaza (5th Century